Sunday, July 23, I had a strange privilege. I got to preach!
It’s… a lot harder than it looks.
I’m not even scared to speak in public. Doesn’t bother me really. I got to speak to the women at both of our campuses. It was fun. Here’s what I talked about!
Being a Godly woman and 3 things your husband needs from you. This is a brief summary of what I spoke about:
To be a more godly woman – you must be hard working. A hardworking woman is prepared and ready for things to come. She’s aware of what’s going on in her life and in other’s lives. She’s more concerned with the word than a tv show. She’s focused, and on the good things. She plans for the upcoming season, not just a couple of days ahead. She’s ready for whatever.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet. Proverbs 31:21
To be a more godly woman – you must be a life giver. Eve means “to live, or to breathe”. She was considered the mother of all. We are life bearers, as mothers, but I feel as though our job is also to bring life and life more abundant. Jesus told us that he can give us life more abundant and I feel as if we have a hand in that as well. The whole “If mama ain’t happy.. Ain’t no body happy thing?” We can sap a room of it’s joy in a minute. We have to be encouragers and warm and friendly. A godly woman would be.
To be a more godly woman – you must be fully trusting in your Savior. You plan, and you work, and do what you feel called to do, and know that Jesus will take up the slack. He’s got plans to prosper us.
And then 3 things your husband needs from you.
He needs your respect: No teasing in public, no husband bashing. Give him a chance to fix things, notice when he does. Don’t belittle him. Husbands instinctively respect their wives. They never tease us for gaining weight in public, and we women do it all the time. I read an interesting tidbit – men judge each other and feel judged based on the respect of their wives. That’s us ladies. Our husbands can feel better or worse about themselves because of us. That’s huge.
He needs you to want him: Sexually and in life in general. Men who were asked, “If your wife only slept with you because of her wifely duty and didn’t seem interested, would you be satisfied?” 90% answered No. They want to know that we choose them and continue to choose them. Ladies, we need the “I love you’s”, and the “you’re pretty’s” but men need to know that we want them to be with. Even playing! Guys like to spend time doing things they like, with their wives. For example – Wes told me the other day he only wants to go kayaking with me. I’m not a great kayaker.. (Shocker!) but he wants me to go with him.
And finally – He needs your support: 25% of men said they didn’t feel appreciated at home. That is our fault as women. We have to step up and let them know that we appreciate what they do. Even the little things. Taking out the trash so we don’t have to deal with it. Mowing. Helping with the kids. Working. A husband let’s his guard down most with is wife, and we have the unique opportunity to build him up like no one else, or cut him down like no one else. Use that opportunity wisely.
So you all know that I’ve been trying to get Judah to sleep through the night.. and that has been going.. poorly. Until.. Friday night when Lucy stayed with her Mawmaw. Judah slept so good. Like 6 hours straight. Which, isn’t really a long time, but considering I was getting up every 2.5 hours, that’s great! And once Lucy came home and was back in bed… back to waking up all hours of the night.
So… last night we put Lucy in the big bed up front.
And JUDAH SLEPT! So that’s what it was. Lucy, in her flopping around in her little bed, has been waking up my little light sleeper! So now.. We will let our toddler sleep in the big bed up front so that we can all sleep at night.
Front room has a TV. That’s the main way I coaxed her into sleeping in the big bed by herself. Last night right before she went to sleep she yelled for me. She wanted to sleep “In the little bed”. It was hard to tell her no… We may end up moving the big bed out and setting them up in different rooms. If it lets me sleep good.. you can bet that’s gonna happen.
Friday was Lucy’s birthday. Here’s what we did – nothing huge – just a couple of gifts and some cake. Their party will be this weekend. We’ll see how Lucy likes to share the gifts…
She turned three.
I can’t believe she’s this big!
And as requested – strawberry cake.
We gave her a kitchen set. This was made by my grandpa back in 1989. He and my mom built it and decorated it. Wes and I took it and refinished it. We painted, updated knobs, Papa J made a window in the oven, we painted the hinges. And I must say – it is stinking adorable. She got lots of food and pots and pans to go with it. She’s been ‘cooking’ for us a lot lately. There’s plastic food all over my house. Judah doesn’t like the plastic food.
Here’s me with the kitchen and my mom, brand new in 1989.
And Lucy and me with the kitchen, freshly remodeled in 2013.
I’ve had a few folks tell me that comparing Lucy to me in this picture that she looks like me. I see some likeness. She’s still super daddy, and super daddy’s girl too.
I love her serious wink.
And this little dude.
Now that I think I’ve figured out how to get him to sleep.. I guess I’m back to keeping him. It was touch and go for a few days there 😉
Hope your week goes by fast! (And given most people are off Thursday and Friday, I’m sure it will!)