I know what you are thinking. “I know this one!”
But I bet you don’t.
Because I’m not looking at anything to tell you this. This is my personal opinion. Take it or leave it.
If you google marriage problems you’ll come up with a ka-trillion-bazillion things that people think will kill a marriage.
Financial stress. Money money money.
Family stress (the dreaded in-laws).
Children. Can be a blessing, but are expensive!
Non communication, miscommunication. Not understanding or even attempting to understand the other.
These can all be detrimental to a marriage. But they won’t end it.
Even if you have all of these- the marriage can still survive. And flourish!
Wes and I aren’t the best at communicating. We aren’t so rich we never worry about money. And having two little ones, we get it. That’s stressful.
But we are very happily married.
Because divorce is not an option for us.
And I think that is the biggest issue marriages face nowadays.
“Well, if it doesn’t work, we can always get divorced.”
“I can always leave.”
“I don’t have to stay in this.”
And it’s true, marriages are reversible…
But they shouldn’t be.
If you go into the marriage thinking, ‘we can always get divorced’ then you should not be getting married.
Now- I understand there are times when divorce is what has to happen, and even in cases of abuse, should happen. If you are being hurt by your spouse, get help.
If you are just bored, or even one who says, “we just don’t love each other like we used to…” You shouldn’t be getting divorced.
I heard a story once about a marriage counselor who ran into a guy whose marriage he counseled. The guy and his wife had gotten divorced and this guy now had lost a lot of weight, was dressing nicer and was keeping himself up. The marriage counselor stopped and talked with him. The guy said, “well, I figured if I wanted to get another wife I needed to do something with myself.”
The marriage counselor thinks to himself, “you might could have saved your marriage if you thought about doing this for your wife.”
The grass is greener on the other side.
The grass is greener where you water it.
Water your marriage and you will have a good marriage.
Don’t let divorce just be your first option. Don’t let it be an option.
1 Corinthians 7 tells us that a man should have his own wife and the wife her own husband.
Genesis tells us that man and wife become one flesh.
It’s telling us that once we marry, we should remain married.
If you have been divorced, I’m sorry you had to go through that. They aren’t easy. If you have remarried, pour into this marriage, and keep it.
God can help you with your marriage but you will have to work as well.
I had a good weekend. I know most of you are probably enjoying today off as well. Kinda funny… I tell people I’m either always off, or I never get a day off. Two ways to look at it b
Anyway! Wes has been wanting a kayak for about 2 years. He finally went and got one. So yesterday he and I took some kayaks out on the river and had a nice time.
It was the second time I have ever been in a kayak. I did alright. Took me some getting used too.
It wasn’t too hard. About 100 feet from where we got in at there was some tiny falls, about 5 feet, and so I was put to the test really quick. I got soaking wet. But, I didn’t fall out!
It was really nice. My kiddos went with uncle Paul and aunt Christy to Mawmaws to swim.
What cute kids!
Wes and I are going to get busy on our bedroom today. When we remodeled our house we never really loved our bedroom, and then we never really finished it. So now, we are going to do that. We are excited!
Ill show you before and after pics once we finish. We are doing some minor adjustments. Like adding plugs to the other side and getting creative with our fireplace. I’m super excited!!
Ok- y’all have a good Memorial Day!
Tell someone who has fought for our country”Thank you” today. You have a wonderful day off because of them.