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Marriage Monday: Little Foxes // Christmas and the Flu

Welcome back! I’m glad to be back and happy to be getting into a routine again. I didn’t blog but once in December so I’ll get you all caught up at the end.

Catch for us the foxes,
the little foxes
that ruin the vineyards,
our vineyards that are in bloom. Song of Solomon 2:15

In every marriage there are things that the other person does that irritates you. If you don’t admit that – then you are lying and going to let it build up and become a much larger issue.

They are little foxes. They don’t do a lot of damage, but they can.

For example. I have been known to leave a cabinet door open a time or two. I don’t even notice that I do it – I try to be mindful – but I don’t always close the doors when I’m done.

Wes notices. It irritates him. He calls me “The Opener”. It suits me. I read a story once where another man’s wife was the same way. He said this: “I’ve got 3 options. I can divorce her, kill her, or just close the doors.”

We tend to make a bigger deal out of things than we should. We have to be able to let things go and move on. We have to realize that no one is perfect, especially ourselves and there are things that we do that probably irritate our spouse. If we can change them, of course we should try. In the meantime, we have to forgive the other person.

Before you blow up and yell, or before you let it build into an issue when it shouldn’t be – ask yourself- in a week will this matter? If your answer is yes, then ask in a month. If still yes, then a year. If it will still matter in a year – then sit down and discuss it. If it won’t matter in a week or a month or a year – then don’t turn it into a fight.

I used to feel like I was being walked over when I didn’t get to speak my mind, when I didn’t get to say “this or that irritates me!” But I figured out that it’s better to not have an argument rather than argue over something that really doesn’t matter.

Don’t let the little foxes steal your joy. Don’t let them steal your marriage.

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Life blog

Happy Birthday to me – Last week. January 2nd I turned 29. Twenty-Nine. I’m almost 30. Oh well.. 30 is the new 20 right? Ha!

I spent the last week of my life SUPER sick – with super sick babies. We all had the flu. It was not any fun. I do not wish that on anyone. Ever. We had a trip to the mountains planned – with a beautiful cabin and snow and.. we had to come home before we even got to see it. And being trapped in a hotel room and car all together ensured that we all got the flu. It was awesome. (NOT.) I seriously took no pictures while we were in Gatlinburg. Because we did nothing. Except go to Walgreens twice.

The kids had a great Christmas. They got way to many toys. They are so loved. And so blessed to have so many caring family members.

I found out I’m going to be an Aunt again! Thats exciting.

My kiddos are still super sweet. Even when they are sick. Tamiflu has kicked in and is making everyone feel better now. Still hard to get over. Not sure how Wes was over the whole thing in a couple of days. He must’ve given it to us and made it go away sooner 😉 Who knows. I do know he’s one heck of a guy – He’s been taking care of all of us for the past week. I got a good one ladies.

I’m happy to be back and glad to be sharing with you all again. Have a great Monday!