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110515: Gratefulness

It’s so funny how God works with stuff, right? Ever been going about your life, then you see an uncanny pattern and you’re like, “I see what you did there, God.”

That happened for me. After we left the zoo, Lucy had her usual list of I-wish-I’s. “I wish I got to ride that carousel. I wish I had got a hot dog.” Etc, etc. Every parent has heard some of these.

It’s our greedy flesh nature in action. 

And today, my bible verse was this:

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Isn’t that awesome. I told Lucy that it’s better to look at the things we did get to do, and be thankful for those, instead of just what we missed out on. Craig Groeschel said this, “Gratitude turns whatever we have, into enough.” That’s so good. 

So on our ride home, we took turns giving “I’m thankful I got to-” statements. And it blessed my heart. 

I even told her that there are a lot of time I want things I can’t have, but it’s good to be grateful for the things we do have. 

I was encouraged to tell someone what I’m thankful for. 

I’m grateful for my husband who is an awesome provider, noticer of when I need a break, mechanic, and fixer-upper. (He does the fixing-upping, he doesn’t need fixing-upping.)

Im grateful for my children, who are happy, healthy, balanced, and so very themselves all the time. 

I’m grateful for my Church which continually surprises me and keeps me saying, “Man! God is good!”

I’m grateful for my ability to stay at home and work different types of jobs instead of a traditional 8-5 job where I would miss so much of my life. 

I’m grateful I get to homeschool my children. The thought of leaving them with other people all day, and just trust that they will educate them to their needs scares me to death. I know, trained professionals and all… But I’m one of those professionals. And I love the fact I can do this for my children. 

There are so many more things I’m grateful for; it’s a list I can’t put in one blog post or it would weigh down the Internet. My new Keurig, our rabbits, my Jeep, goodness, my Jeep again because I really love it so, breezy evenings on my front porch, my recently remodeled bedside tables, clean sheets, my favorite pair of jeans, the feeling when my head hits my pillow after a long day. I could go on. 

Let’s try and have a grateful mentality today. Gratitude turns whatever we have into enough. Let’s live like we have enough. Because we do. We are so blessed!

012115 + 102215 + 012315 = Major fail

WHOA. What happened there? I fell off that wagon for sure. I 100% forgot about my good thing blogging. Oops! Hopefully this will be my last time having at least 3 up there. I may start doing them the morning of the next day, since that’s the only time I actually have time and I’m not basically sound asleep already.

So lets recap…

012115:
Wednesday. I got to lead worship for our youth again. Which was fun and is challenging. I’m trying to be more upbeat, but that’s not easy when it’s just me and a guitar. I’m going to make it work though. It’s been fun. Kids are lively. Which also makes me in turn feel pretty old. Wes and I took the kids for a ride on our (borrowed) four wheeler. The kids love the woods.

122215:
Thursday. I cleaned my house like a banshee all day. I took zero pictures. My house looks great though. And then I kept it fairly clean all day Friday too.

122315:
Friday. I stopped by to visit my Aunt Karla and Uncle Jerry. Kids went with me and Uncle Jerry was nice enough to take us on a ride!

We drove down the road just a little ways. Judah… wasn’t a fan. Lucy loved it!

Then she caused a scene for me. I asked her to tell Uncle Jerry “Thanks” for driving us on his bus. She, instead of saying thank you, folded her arms and turned away. She wouldn’t even tell them bye.

I was furiuos and disappointed. More disappointed than mad though.

I taught school long enough to see that the vast majority of kids are misbehaved and ungrateful. I quit work to try and ensure grateful hearts in my kids. And then, after someone goes out of their way, in sort of a big way, and then my kid not even say thank you?

Lucy got a talk of all talks once we got into the car. The best part of having a four and half year old is that she understands a lot of what I say. Talks actually help now. They don’t do much for J-man, but Lucy understands.

Me: Lucy. I’m super disappointed in you.
Lucy: I don’t want you disappoint. I want you happy.
Me: Well, I’m not happy. You should have said thank you. Uncle Jerry took us on his bus, he didn’t have to. That was a special treat. Are you glad you got to ride it?
Lucy: Yes.
Me: Then you should have told him so. You should have at least said “thank you” when you got off to let him know that you had fun on the bus.
Lucy: But I-
Me: No. I don’t want to hear any excuse. If you can’t say thank you, then you can’t say anything. Don’t speak until we get home.

And we drove in SILENCE to my house. I was fuming. But I was also CRAZY proud of myself for not yelling. Normally, I would have yelled.

When we got home, Lucy was still silent. I told her to tell her dad what she got to do, and what she didn’t do. He didn’t say anyting about it either, which made her realize that it was a big deal.

She was supposed to spend the night with her Aunt Christy and Uncle Paul (a real treat for her… and us :)) but I decided that I would spoil everyone’s plans. I was going to give her the opportunity to call Uncle Jerry back and thank him over the phone. If she did that, she could still get to go and all would be forgiven.

So we called him. She told him, “Thank you for letting me ride the bus.” And when he asked if she had fun, she said, “I did.” She also told him bye.

It made me happy. She got what she wanted… Happy Mom. The look on her face after we hugged it out, made me see a lot of myself in her. I always wanted to please my mom. She’s going to be the same way.

I asked her how she felt, now that she had told him Thanks. She said, “Good.” I asked her, “Are you glad you did the right thing?” And she said, “yep!” She acted much different after the call. And I was a proud Mom again.

Raising grateful kids in this day and age of instant gratification and anything you want anytime you want it is hard. And I’m only just beginning. Props to those of you with grateful pre-teens and teenagers.