I was thinking just now how I am going to prepare myself for this second kid I’m going to have in a few short months, and I started reminiscing about when I had Lucy. Those baby days are not always something you’ll miss. Yes, you miss the little baby, but the sleepless nights aren’t something people envy. So, I made a list of things I wish I had really known before I had Lucy.
1. Buy paper plates.
There is nothing worse than a nasty kitchen. Sacrifice the earth for a couple of weeks and eat on stuff you can just throw out. Wesley doesn’t do the dishes. So, this go around, you can bet, I’m going to have plenty of paper products ready.
2. Let people help you.
You know how people say, “If you need anything…”? Take them up on it. Let them clean your living room. Let them wash a load of your clothes. Let them sweep your kitchen. If they really mean it, they won’t mind, and if they didn’t, it’ll make sure they never say it again to anyone.
3. Your house will be clean again one day.
Don’t stress yourself out about having a clean house the first few weeks you get home. It will be a mess, but it will be okay. If people come to visit, they aren’t going to be looking at anything but the new baby anyway. You can clean up when its older. (HAHAHA!)
4. Your freezer is your friend.
Make some meals ahead of time, and freeze them. This way, you don’t break the bank sending hubby out to get sonic every couple of nights when you really don’t feel up to making a 3 course meal. I’m definitely doing this on this go around. I didn’t with Lucy. REGRETS.
5. Don’t worry about what the book says.
You may give your little one a pacifier. The books say not too. There are going to be nights when you let your brand new addition sleep on your chest. The books say not to. But I’m here to tell you, do what you gotta do to get some sleep. Which brings me to #6.
6. Sleep is way more important than you think.
And you will enjoy sleep again one day. Just not in the first couple of weeks. If you have to sleep with your little one to get rest, then do it. You can unbreak those habits later when you are more rested. The first time Lucy slept more than 3 hours straight was in the rocking chair with me. And that 4 1/2 hours was heavenly.
7. You will learn the meaning of terrified.
You have no idea what scared is until you have a baby. Everything is dangerous now. Couches, other peoples hands, napkins, the floor, carpet. EVERYTHING.
8. Breastfeeding is the hardest part of new mothering. And it is worth it.
I had no idea how hard breastfeeding would be. I also had no idea just how rewarding it would be either. When I quit with Lucy (only a short 2 weeks ago) I cried. She cried. I didn’t want to stop, and neither did she. It is the best decision I’ve made as a mom so far (second only to me quitting my job.) Advice given to me: Give it 6 weeks. You can’t judge breastfeeding on the first 2 weeks. I PROMISE.
9. Swaddling works. And so do sound machines.
Lucy wouldn’t sleep at all for the first 2 months of her life if she wasn’t swaddled. Also, once I bought the “gentle giraffe” (From Target, made by Cloud B) she slept much better. Just white noise so she didn’t wake from every little house creak. Best 22.99 I ever spent.
10. You are going to mess up. Big time. But it’ll be okay.
When Lucy was about 2 months old, I notices some stuff on her head. (Cradle cap). I didn’t know this, so I took a washcloth and scrubbed it off. It came off just fine. But so did all of her baby fine hair. It grew back. My tears didn’t make it grow back any faster. You’ll do something just a stupid as me, and you’ll cry and it won’t matter one day.
11. You have no idea what love is.
I thought I loved Lucy before she was here. Boy was I wrong. I remember days, just holding her and weeping because of how much I loved her. It was and still is UNREAL how much my heart is filled when I see her. Every parent knows, but no parent can explain to a non parent. Just wait. You’ll see.
And now, I get to ask you all a question…
What did you wish you knew with #2? What do I need to know?