Just getting to my computer this morning and I’m seeing that it looks as though I blogged only once or twice last week. Super sorry about that. Judah and his sleeping seemed to have gotten worse toward the end of the week. I didn’t write a blog at all for Thursday or Friday, and two that I had written didn’t schedule right. So, this week will be better!
Be angry and do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger, (Ephesians 4:26 HCSB)
One thing I can say that Wes and I have done right in our marriage is this: we fight.
And if you fight in your marriage, that’s okay.
Marriage isn’t easy. You’re taking two people who are different, who were raised differently, and you put them in one house and make them live together and you are going to have some disagreements! And then add kids!
If you aren’t fighting, you aren’t communicating.
Now- let me clarify fighting: not like screaming, cussing, throwing stuff, hitting each other or abusing the other one.
I mean, disagreeing, spats, differing opinions.
It’s okay to not always agree. But you have to be able to talk about it.
I think this is where guys get all in a wad. Guys don’t love sharing their feelings. But guys- in marriage- you have too.
Wes and I have learned that yes, airing out the arguments and talking through them will not be fun… But it is most important and necessary.
In our 9 years of marriage, we have slept in different beds because of a fight…. Never.
We tried to once… But neither of us could sleep. So we stayed up and argued it out and then were able to both sleep once we got past it. Yes, we still had growing and changing to do the next day, and in weeks to come…
But we didn’t go to sleep still being angry/hurt/let down by the other.
And I believe that’s why our marriage is as strong as it is today.
If you and your spouse normally do the whole argue, sleep in different places, and then act like it didn’t happen: STOP.
Talk about your issues.
The talk will be uncomfortable. And it might get worse before it gets better, but the only way to move forward without holding resentment and grudges is by communicating.
Ok, as I said, Judah and his sleeping are very random and very not stable. Some nights he’ll sleep like 6 hours straight… very few nights… Most nights he’s waking up at least twice a night. This is DRAINING. Last Thursday night he actually woke up like 7 times. And he doesn’t just fall back asleep. And with him and sister sharing a room, I can’t let him cry it out because he’ll wake her up. So… That’s been fun. We’re working on it. Here are some pictures to get you caught up.. since I was a terrible blogger last week 🙁
Wow. Ok! Hopefully this week will be better with the blogs!! Again, I apologize.
Hope your Monday doesn’t feel like one!